Saturday, June 20, 2009

Best Things To Write In A Wedding Book

• Greed • Envy • Envy Love


There are three emotions that interfere with our feeling of love and that we produce the sensation of being subject, especially greed, which is the one that keeps us tethered pathologically united that we love. The three emotions: • Greed • Envy • Envy.

To understand the dynamics of love "sticky" or love prison, it is necessary to understand that this is not the same thing "to have" that "possess".

Owning . When you think you have something you do face a psychological conflict, but as you know, "what you possess possesses you." When you got "something", which is owned possesses you. This means that you can not do without. When you lose your possessions, you're falling down, you feel a great emptiness, the feeling of drowning you lost, you will run. When you get something by the desire to possess, you show what you have, and when you lose you feel a great lack and need to own again.

Have . This is not the same thing when you have something. When you have something there no overstatement of what you have, you know you can do without even if you feel pain but you will not feel a sense of unbearable loss. For example, this is not the same thing to own a car than have a car. By having the sensation of having, what you have just become part of you, your image, your identity and your operation until I could not live without my car! The car you already own. Starting to worship in your car, you start to worship you because you own that car.

is only that, you've got something, but it is not you, there's really not an overstatement of the object relative to yourself, so you can do without. It is obvious that it may raise your esteem by the effort you did to get it, but in this case your esteem increases not by the object itself, but by your ability to achieve, by confidence in yourself, and your confidence has increased so not by an external object, but through domestic action. If you lose this car does your esteem drops because your faith is filed in yourself and not an object.

When you own something, you rejoice in, but by suffering or by suffering, when you have something you enjoy in without suffering and hurting. "Truly your life is very difficult if it is based in what you possess and not what you have and especially what you are."

Now you can understand why many people who lost their possessions came to suicide because their image was destroyed. When you can not be happy with what you have or what you do not give you happiness, you're just into the breach so that pushes the envy and greed.

This is not the same thing to feel, think and say: "I have" a boyfriend, that "I have" a boyfriend. Often when one says "I have a boyfriend," the sensation is "having a boyfriend or girlfriend," as appropriate. Not good ... "You are what you do socially, but psychologically and spiritually you are what you are thinking and feeling"

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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Lenses Element Changing

prison

Why do we continue to love people who make our life difficult? Why do we love people who make us feel secured slaves? I refer to this type of love that makes us suffer and we can not free ourselves. When do we make us realize that we are completely committed and slaves of the person we love?

The answer is: when we face the possibility of losing the object of our love when we see before us the possibility of separating, when we think vaguely that the other may leave us and we do not want that it leaves us, when we start to think that our loved one does not like us ... When was the first time, objectively, we think it hurts us and it is necessary to separate us, let us away to always and only made to think makes us feel sick.

In consulting any therapist, it is common to hear confessions following: I am with someone who makes me very hard and I do not know how to get free. I know it hurts me but he loves me very much. Although I know it hurts me, I do not see myself finding someone who loves me like him. Without it (it) I do not want to live, although I know that with her (it), this is not a life. He once told me he loves me not, but I do not think so. He once told me he loves me not, but he says make me suffer because I know he loves me. I know he will never find anyone like me. I know he will suffer if he leaves me and then it will return with me, I'll wait. This is the only person that makes me feel good. He told me that I will never find someone like him, and I know it's true. I do not know why he hurts me if he knows that I love. I am sure he will change and he will not mistreat me. He said he will leave but I know it's only to scare me ... if I leave I do not know what I would do ...

We could go with many phrases like this that all have the same background, that is to say the feeling of bondage to beings that we love, unable to leave even though we know it we not love or that loves us in a way that simultaneously makes us suffer. Usually when a person is in this conflict affectionate, we can discover the following: • The person

love wants the object of love love him (her).
• He wants to be someone important in the life of another person
• The person finds love in the other behaviors that do not meet but she tries to ignore in order not to lose.
• It has an immediate pleasure in being with each other and at the same time sad if it did not. • When
they separated, she feels the concern, fear.
• It has the firm belief that without the other it will never be happy.

In non-pathological feelings of love there is an acceptance of others as he is. There are no requirements to be loved or to love. When he ceases to love us we are fighting to retain it, but if indeed it has stopped loving us, we leave, we do not retain, we will leave an emotional wound that heals. Our ability to love is intact and we believe are capable of loving and being loved again by others.

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