There are three emotions that interfere with our feeling of love and that we produce the sensation of being subject, especially greed, which is the one that keeps us tethered pathologically united that we love. The three emotions: • Greed • Envy • Envy.
To understand the dynamics of love "sticky" or love prison, it is necessary to understand that this is not the same thing "to have" that "possess".
Owning . When you think you have something you do face a psychological conflict, but as you know, "what you possess possesses you." When you got "something", which is owned possesses you. This means that you can not do without. When you lose your possessions, you're falling down, you feel a great emptiness, the feeling of drowning you lost, you will run. When you get something by the desire to possess, you show what you have, and when you lose you feel a great lack and need to own again.
Have . This is not the same thing when you have something. When you have something there no overstatement of what you have, you know you can do without even if you feel pain but you will not feel a sense of unbearable loss. For example, this is not the same thing to own a car than have a car. By having the sensation of having, what you have just become part of you, your image, your identity and your operation until I could not live without my car! The car you already own. Starting to worship in your car, you start to worship you because you own that car.
is only that, you've got something, but it is not you, there's really not an overstatement of the object relative to yourself, so you can do without. It is obvious that it may raise your esteem by the effort you did to get it, but in this case your esteem increases not by the object itself, but by your ability to achieve, by confidence in yourself, and your confidence has increased so not by an external object, but through domestic action. If you lose this car does your esteem drops because your faith is filed in yourself and not an object.
When you own something, you rejoice in, but by suffering or by suffering, when you have something you enjoy in without suffering and hurting. "Truly your life is very difficult if it is based in what you possess and not what you have and especially what you are."
Now you can understand why many people who lost their possessions came to suicide because their image was destroyed. When you can not be happy with what you have or what you do not give you happiness, you're just into the breach so that pushes the envy and greed.
This is not the same thing to feel, think and say: "I have" a boyfriend, that "I have" a boyfriend. Often when one says "I have a boyfriend," the sensation is "having a boyfriend or girlfriend," as appropriate. Not good ... "You are what you do socially, but psychologically and spiritually you are what you are thinking and feeling"
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