The concept "love"
It would be desirable to review what we call "love" and has nothing to do with. It is ironic that while one can speak of a feeling that very few know what it means. You stop a moment and think for a moment about what how you converted your relationship or that what you did private.
A relationship that can not miss what you do not put in it.
If a relationship with time seems to mean nothing, it's you who will deflect this lack of significance. Often, there is the fault of disenchantment over time, but time is not part of the relationship even if it establishes it. Time is a means and ways can not be part of the result. Time has done nothing, but rather: That with you because of the relationship over time? Search for culprits is simple but is complicated responsibilities.
in your relationships, as with anything, you're faced with a decision and olny that consists in the election between fear and love. All elections you take in your life hiding this unique election that repeats itself every moment.
To break the vicious circle of fear in relationships and enter the virtuous circle of love, we have a choice of behavior: "Stop paying attention to the fantasies of love. Stop believing the stories that we tell." You will not need to decide where to put your attention because this is not necessary: when thou shalt be released from your irrational fantasies you will never see that love in your relationships.
unconscious
In any relationship it seems strange that everyone has the right to report the faults of others and assume the dubious purpose of correcting for the good of the relationship.
This is nothing more than the umpteenth repetition of the nightmare, in which the ego repeats itself that the other must change for things to get better. Thinking that reflects this is: "I'd be happy if only you were different". By putting the other person need correction does not change and everything continues like that and sometimes it gets worse. What makes you think that someone should change to be different from what it is? Looking for love, searching for relationships when inadequate or even not only brings adequacy of inadequate relationships.
Everyone wants to have a good relationship, but very few are willing to moult their skin to get there. And what happens is that in every relationship unconscious all past memories of previous relationships turn against the current relationship.
The same fear again and again. The lovers are not two but the sum of all the phantoms of the past, the sum of all fears, all the failures combined. And if the ego has started watching a body and not a soul, now it will not even have the body. As the ego is unable to see the other he invents. This model in its own way. He idealizes the hope not to look at reality. Sometimes even the lack of desire to be loved to supplant its own absurd fantasy.
Once again, the circle of pain is becoming deeper and more and more necessary for the transformation inside out. Came into operation the law of the wave that leads people to turn in circles around their own pain, more and faster, louder and louder, until by its own strength it is expelled to the outside.
So how to have healthy relationships and conscious? In general, relations are established between two conscious beings complete in themselves and who do not consider necessities. Warning! this does not mean they do not want to pet: we all want to be together, to love and be loved. No, it means they do not "need" to support life because life itself is very generous.
Hearts aware attract conscious hearts. The completeness draws be complete, incomplete and being attracted to be incomplete.
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