Each new relationship that is beginning is the reflection of ourselves. The beloved is a mirror in which we see our own desires until that same mirror that shows us what we really are. If the image does not please us we tend to change partners, but early fears return later and history repeats itself. A relationship can heal suffering, you just be brave and face reality.
It seems that relations have become a real crazy after all these articles and comments on the issue. Increasingly moving away from what should be a blessing into a curse. What have we done to our relationships? We used to say that relationships are difficult without really realizing that in reality they are what we've done them and in fact it is we who are difficult.
is our ego that has become difficult and intractable. And what is certain is that whatever we lack in a relationship is just that we have not put in before.
Most relationships are ego to ego and can be seen easily in the media.
these relationships contemplate that the body of another and at most "personality" but not the person, not a human being behind it. They see only one character, quality, and of course, a multitude of sins.
With this perspective, people are looking for people that meet their requirements. They demand that their relations make them happy and here is the root of the problem .. They renounce
be happy by themselves and they prefer to put in the other all their hopes of future happiness. Still with the following condition: If the other gives satisfaction
love it but if it disappoints, it will be hated for betraying those hopes.
When this happens, start looking for another person. This is not surprising that relationships are an experience of suffering where the result of disappointment repeats itself again and again. How many problems pourrrions we avoid if we were able to bring us closer to our partner enjoying simply the gift of his presence in our lives! Recognizing that there be in each other and not just an accomplice of our delusions of love, which are anything but unconditional love!
The romanticism and romantic love have nothing to do with unconditional love. Their confusion is the cause of great suffering. The romanticism is need and need is a lack of love.
Romantic love has its basis in what love is in the "other" and that the other can give. Since we lack love, we try to find out as if it were a conquest. In fact that's how we talk about: Conquering a Heart like a hunting trophy. Here, love becomes possession and the relationship becomes a mutual convenience. It's as if everyone had to get one of the other must lose. This is the game: a win-lose.
The romantic vision of love has done much harm to men and women who are fantastic stories, utopias and absurd deceptions. The supposed love, unfortunately, has led many people to the grave ... what a contradiction!
We gave credibility to our insane desires of love and we have converted into nightmares!
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